Do I want a child?

Do I want a child?

Postby P37CEOFMIND » Thu Nov 09, 2017 11:41 am

Im 19 years old and have been in a loving relationship with my partner for 4 years now. Just last month I had a pregnancy scare. A week and a half before my expected period i started having weird lower abdomen pains the week n a half. I drink and smoke weed and stopped once i had the slighted thought i was pregnant. I took multiple test which were all negative but i thought it was because i was taking them to early to tell. I started preparing myself to actually be pregnant and once i knew i wasnt pregnant i felt a sad. I even have dreams im pregnant now.
Up until i thought i was pregnant i always told myself i didnt want a kid until i had enough money to provide them with happiness. Now i feel like im being selfish for wanting to have a child so early in my life. Any suggestions?
P37CEOFMIND
 
Posts: 2
Joined: Thu Nov 09, 2017 2:46 am

Re: Do I want a child?

Postby nathaly93 » Sat Nov 18, 2017 7:00 pm

I had my first when I was 19, it is not easy to be a young mother. I will tell you that you should be ready mentally and financially because kids take too much money, you should also try to wait a little longer and save money because kids do take time and money and when they are sick parents are not able to work so that means no money coming in for the days you lost. Think ahead before actually becoming pregnant.
nathaly93
 
Posts: 764
Joined: Tue Aug 11, 2015 1:01 am

Re: Do I want a child?

Postby Cyn96 » Fri Dec 29, 2017 11:03 pm

I would wait a bit if I where you. Not because of your age, I am only 21 and can't wait to start trying, but because you have only started thinking about it not all that long ago. Wait and think about it more, see if you can at least afford everything a baby needs and if you have a decent home where your little one can grow up and not be in danger or dirt.
People think I am crazy for wanting a baby but I have been wanting one since I was 19 and now, in the new year, once my fiance and I have our own place and jobs we are going to try, but we have been thinking about it for a very long time. A decision like that you shouldn't make so rushed.
Cyn96
 
Posts: 10
Joined: Fri Dec 29, 2017 10:47 pm


Return to First time Moms

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 1 guest