Ok, so I want advice because I don't know what I'm doing wrong and I feel really guilty that my cooking is causing my husband's weight gain. So we got married in January, but we met my freshman year in university. When we met I was 40lbs lighter and he was very fit. A lot of muscle
...that was almost 7 years ago. He was very into fitness and I began joining him (more sporadically). Anyways, although I'd work out my eating habits were bad, and I gained the 40lbs during my 4 years in college. He studied abroad his junior year, where he was unable to workout at all, and I think he became depressed while away. Going abroad held him back a bit, so as his last year in college approached, he focused more on school-work and less on the gym. Forward to present time. This last year has been tough on us because I was in a car accident where I broke both legs and one arm. Point is, along with his new job and my recovery, he lost complete focus on the gym. Late February we got a gym membership, where we try to go five times a week, but usually go about twice a wk because his job takes up a lot of his time. When we do go, we weight train for an hour and alternate daily between upper body and lower body. I thought he was looking a little lighter since our wedding, but his family always comments that he is gaining weight and how I must be "feeding him well". It makes me feel so bad for him!! I'm fat, I know I am, but I know how hard he works at being fit and how much he cares about his health that it breaks my heart to hear his family tell us he's gaining weight. Especially when he works so hard to be where he was. Our meals are usually the same thing every week; boneless skinless chicken breast, ground beef/turkey, fish, pot roast for main with the occasional wheat bread sandwich...sides vary from frozen peas and carrots, Normandy blend vegetables, home-cooked rice, pinto beans, mashed or roasted potatoes. Breakfast is always four eggs between the two of us, with either chorizo, potatoes, or turkey bacon. Corn tortillas accompany every breakfast and many lunches and dinners. He has a mid morning snack of a banana and a granola bar daily. When he gets home from work he usually snacks on a small handful of either Tropical trail mix or dry roasted unsalted peanuts. We eat out about once a week. I don't see a giant problem with our eating aside from the amount of corn tortillas we consume, but his family's comments make me feel like I'm sabotaging my husband ='(. My weight fluctuates, but on average it is the same as the day we got married. I don't know about his weight because I don't ask, but he's about 20lbs heavier than when we met, I wouldn't know the difference in his weight from wedding day to now. If you see something wrong with the way we eat, please tell me so I can do my best change it! I really feel like a terrible wife..