How do I Tell my Religious Parents I'm Depressed

Re: How do I Tell my Religious Parents I'm Depressed

Postby AbbyArt » Thu Aug 31, 2017 6:46 am

I went through the same situation as you, I'm glad I told my parents that I need help. They did do stupid religious things at first but they got me a psychiatrist as their last resort. I'm feeling so much better and it's noticeable. You might go through dumb things but it will be worth it at the end.
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Re: How do I Tell my Religious Parents I'm Depressed

Postby Ellie95 » Wed Sep 06, 2017 1:38 pm

Nutcase parents you should go to a state school socialise and learn proper scientific facts. If they don't allow that tell then you would call child support, they are not eligible or well educated enough to teach you you should tell them how you feel. They sound proper nutcase
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Re: How do I Tell my Religious Parents I'm Depressed

Postby doggieshe » Sun Sep 10, 2017 3:42 am

Ellie95 wrote:Nutcase parents you should go to a state school socialise and learn proper scientific facts. If they don't allow that tell then you would call child support, they are not eligible or well educated enough to teach you you should tell them how you feel. They sound proper nutcase
I get it may parents can be rude at times. But they are not dumb, my dad works like 11 hours a day if not more and my little brother is a handful. They have a lot on their plate, so I'm going to ask you once to not talk shit about my parents again.
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Re: How do I Tell my Religious Parents I'm Depressed

Postby TheresaS » Mon Sep 11, 2017 1:14 pm

Many people don't understand that depression can be a physical problem. Like diabetes and high blood pressure depression can be difficult to see. But it can also be as crippling as two broken legs. It's not always something you can think, talk or pray your way out of. Find a professional to talk to. If this is the third time and self-harm is an issue, this is something you shouldn't have to handle on your own. Please let your parents know that what you're going through isn't just carelessness or a lack of Godliness in your life, but something that needs to be approached like you would any physical problem. I've had chronic depression for my whole life, but I finally got proper help when I was 19. It's not my fault. It's nothing to be ashamed of. I'm very lucky to have the support I need. It doesn't go away, but it becomes manageable. I'm happily married and my husband and friends and family love me for who I am and they all know about what happens in my brain now and then. They understand that I have found healthy ways to deal with it, and if I can't face it on my own, I can talk to any of them. Your family loves you. If they don't understand now, they'll get there eventually. Especially if they see you feeling better with professional help.
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Re: How do I Tell my Religious Parents I'm Depressed

Postby Eomma » Wed Sep 13, 2017 3:15 pm

Tell someone! Anyone who will listen! My daughter has extreme anxiety and is also homeschooled. I just recently put her in therapy to help with her anxiety and depression. They also changed her anxiety meds and it's helping tremendously. If you're open to it I can get you phone #'s of people you can talk to anonymously if you don't want to give your name or info but talk to someone please!
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Re: How do I Tell my Religious Parents I'm Depressed

Postby Wolf » Tue Oct 10, 2017 3:57 am

Bro I've had that problem I told my best friend that and she told me she wasn't my therapist and to leave her alone it made me more depressed a bit later we broke up our friendship and parted ways because I told her she was making me more depressed and I still don't know who to tell cause no one ik cares
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Re: How do I Tell my Religious Parents I'm Depressed

Postby LilMomma87 » Wed Oct 11, 2017 11:57 am

doggieshe wrote:Ummm, it's kind of hard to express. It's like I just feel empty and then a flood of sadness fills me up and it takes a while to drain out and then the process repeats. Self harm is still an issue, the other day I had to try on swimming suits and I was so scared that my hips were going to show and my mother would see. I almost always have words swimming through my mind though, words like worthless, unloved, useless, fat, ugly, never enough, and attention seeker.
But most of all I'm scared, no actually, I'm terrified that I'll never get better, that I'll never be secure enough to go outside wearing a tank top and shorts and not care what other people think and I'm scared that I'll always be this way.


Hello 👋 I’m a depression survivor. In my early twenties I went through severe depression bouts and attempted suicide 9 times with one nearly succeeding. I’m a Christian and grew up that way. My parents were always talking about “well, you have no reason to be depressed” and other ethical and even religious views on why I SHOULDNT BE depressed. But I still was. As I went day by day trying to just fight it alone I fell further and further into it. If not talked anymore about it with people and it came to the point I was doing harm to myself.

In July 2012 I attempted my final suicide. I saw no reason to keep living, I was alone and felt hollow with deep sadness and suicide seemed the best option to escape it. I OD’d on Tylenol mixed with Hydrocodone...
But a miracle happened. I woke up from my dazed and almost comatose state to find I was in a hospital bed. Surrounded by family and a special friend.

Apparently this special friend had been going home from work and decided to stop by my place and check on me and somehow he felt something wasn’t right and he unlocked the door and found me in the bathroom holding the Tylenol bottle... I can’t tell you how long I’d been in the bathroom but it must have been right after I took the pills because I was still breathing. He rushed me to ER.

All that to say this:

Depression makes you feel hopeless, it makes you feel alone and even really depressed people are outwardly happy... but inside they are suffering. Depression makes talking difficult and makes relationships hard. It’s a disease of the heart that Satan plays with to destroy us from the inside out.
If you are truly depressed then seek your family and friends, yes they may go tell a pastor but THATS OK! Having an army praying for you is much better and safer than standing alone! Pastors are the elders of the church, they are simply people there to guide the flock in the right direction. They are NOT Jesus nor are they God nor are they better or higher in rank than you... they are people too!

The Bible says in James: if there are any sick among you, go to the elders that they may lay hands on you and pray that you may be healed!
It also says that Where Two or more are gathered God is in the midst of them!

Depression is a disease it makes us ill. We must seek healing. If you can’t go to your family then find a friend you can go to! Don’t worry about bringing them down, it may just make them glad you trust them enough to tell them something so personal! But SEEK healing if you are truly depressed! Suicide, self harm and aloofness are NEVER the answer!

May God watch over you!
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Re: How do I Tell my Religious Parents I'm Depressed

Postby Terran » Fri Oct 27, 2017 12:06 am

Hey dogg

Seeking help is the first step to change ones life, which indicated you knew that what you are feeling is not right and you would like to be normal or feel normal all the time. I will tell you to turst in God and read your bible every day and dont burden your friend with your problem because she have problems too. Seek help from an older individual that is close to you and your family. Keep that individual as your mentor and close friend. Feel safe to express your thoughts and be real with your thoughts. Depression can become chronic and you already mentioned that you hurt your self not every one escape from depression. Be smart do a little research on depression and exsercise the interventions that help you become normal with your thoughts. Ask your mom or dad if depression runs in your family. You tell them is a school project you are doing and get all the information you need on the topic and keep the information a folder. Purchase a diary and write down your thoughts and feelings and also your dreams. Exersice getting out of the house more often with your mom become intereted in your mom or dad activities to get out of the house and socialize with your friends. Wear bright cloths and do your hair this will help. Put bright curtains in your room. Use all bright colors in your room. You can do puzzles to keep your mind busy. When you are having thoughts of depression call your mentor and have a conversation or ask your mom to take you for a walk in the park. This will help.try to implememt these that in i have listed and see how it goes. If the activities works for you write them down in your book and schedule it for the day as your daily routine.
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Re: How do I Tell my Religious Parents I'm Depressed

Postby Tirra » Fri Nov 10, 2017 10:34 am

When I was younger, I self harmed. Similar situation - my family's instant go-to response would have been the pastor. I've been free from depression for a while now, and haven't self harmed in six years, but still remember the things that helped me, so here's a few:
If you are a Christian, but you aren't comfortable speaking to the pastor, look for a Christian you know who will be willing to meet with you, say once a week - just to chat about life and see how it's all going. What you share with this person is up to you, but you know they are there if you need to talk.
Go to a doctor. This is VERY important as depression can be caused by a number of things including vitamin deficiency or hormonal imbalance. You need to make sure your body is healthy as well as gaining help for mental strength. Ask your Doctor to refer you to a psychologist - even if it's only for one session, they can give you some really helpful information on how to deal with and manage what you're feeling in a healthy way.
When I was younger I thought it would be horrible if anyone knew what I was going through, now I know that it's not uncommon, and talking about it is really important. You weren't made to do life alone, please don't try to - however lonely it seems there will always be someone you can turn to.
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