Married for two years but no s*x life

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Re: Married for two years but no s*x life

Postby cacahuate86 » Fri Jun 02, 2017 12:41 pm

Is he from the same background? Has he had s*x with other women before you got started dating?
How is your relationship otherwise? Are you very close, can you talk openly about any physical aspect of your relationship with each other?
Maybe he just doesn't know what to do or is shy because of his inexerience? You could just take the initiative and try to seduce him. Orthodox or not, a wife has conjugal rights.
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Re: Married for two years but no s*x life

Postby Firstlady0604 » Mon Jun 12, 2017 11:10 pm

Wow. 2 years???? That is a looong time for anyone not to have s*x unless they're celibate. There is absolutely something going on and as his wife you deserve an explanation. When i was in high school my bf and i dated for 2 yrs before having s*x but we did dry hump (lol) and he performed oral s*x on me. I was also a virgin, but when i was ready you better believe he was more than excited! So I don't know why he hasn't had s*x with you yet. My first thought was that he has to be gay and only married you for social appearances and I hate saying that bcuz he's ur hubby but idk wat else it could be. I might think different if you said he has a desire to have s*x with you, has tried to have s*x with you but physically couldn't. Either way you need to make him face the music and address the issue. Sensitively of course, but firm. You cannot continue to live your life like this. You deserve a conversation and deciding action. He has to know wat is going on with himself to some degree. Tell him it's time to share. You've already agreed to be with him for the rest of your life so unless he's gay, I'm sure a medical condition won't stop you from keeping your vows! I really hope you have a good honest talk with him soon. Best wishes hun!
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Re: Married for two years but no s*x life

Postby Greta522 » Wed Jun 14, 2017 4:36 am

Girl I feel you 100% been with my husband for 8 years married for 4 of them. Even when we first started dating (I lost my virginity to him) we had s*x about once every two weeks. It's been 2.5 years NO s*x! went to the doctors to check everything and that was fine on that end. I snooped on his phone lol and found porn on his phone. I talked to him about it and he kinda just shrugs me off. I love s*x and always want it him on the other hand never does not sure why he always says "I'm tired" sometimes I feel like I married a women and you know how many times people asked me if he was gay and who knows but don't keep me in the dark. Communication is key! I hope everything works out for you!
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Re: Married for two years but no s*x life

Postby Rao+1 » Sun Jun 18, 2017 11:35 pm

Every time i try speaking to him, it turns into a bad fight but eventually he saw a doc last week...turns out he masturbated so much that he dont wants s*x anymore. I could sense he did but not so much...Don't know why he wants to do that when I am ready to have s*x with him...Two weeks since the doc visit and no improvement.he said he will try and stop atleast for a week sothat he has the urge..its 3 am in the morning now...i woke up and could sense he is sleeping beside me and touching himself..Its frustrating....Rather than crying myself silently and going to sleep..I thought of sharing...btw do post ur view..Its giving me courage...
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Re: Married for two years but no s*x life

Postby ravencreek89 » Mon Jun 19, 2017 4:56 pm

Wow, im sorry your going through this. I thought maybe low Testerome. But that is so beyond messed up that your husband is fine,but is maturbating .He needs to out that e energy into you. He is being so selfish. He shouldn't even get mad at you for asking. It's been over two year's. He should def mbe naking sure that your both pleased. I believe in saving marriages, but cheating and abuse is where i draw the line. But in this situation your in...im sorry, but wouldn't stay.
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Re: Married for two years but no s*x life

Postby cacahuate86 » Mon Jun 19, 2017 5:31 pm

There is a reason why he's masturbating instead of having s*x with you.
If it's not sexual (i.e. that he's gay or of any other orientation that doesn't include you), it's likely psychological.
He should go and see a shrink. It could be anything from severe anxiety to addiction.
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Re: Married for two years but no s*x life

Postby flopsy » Mon Jun 19, 2017 11:49 pm

What's a shrink?
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Re: Married for two years but no s*x life

Postby Moosey » Tue Jun 20, 2017 12:12 am

Flopsy- it's a therapist- such as psychiatrist, psychologist. Must be an American term?
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Re: Married for two years but no s*x life

Postby cacahuate86 » Tue Jun 20, 2017 4:46 am

:lol: a headshrinker ... any kind of mental health doctor. It's a term rooted in phrenology, like "highbrow" or "well-rounded". I should have said therapist, tough. You're absolutely right.
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Re: Married for two years but no s*x life

Postby Rao+1 » Tue Jun 20, 2017 4:56 am

Well thanks guys..its mostly psychological I guess..I kept myself engaged this weekend ..met friends..joined a gym...yesterday I sprained my ankle in gym and asked my husband to pick me up..He did help me..also we spoke.at night that I am starting to feel depressed..finally we got into foreplay and hand action..hope things get better
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